AIO? Mother-in-law wants our daughter to see my brother-in-law who we are no-contact with

For context, my brother-in-law / my husband’s brother (27) is currently no-contact with us due to my husband (31) calling the cops on him during a domestic dispute and his brother getting arrested and going on trial. They tried discussing things more over text, and it ended badly and my husband’s brother blocked him on all socials and text. The pretrial is this Tuesday, and my brother-in-law is flying in on Monday, and my mother-in-law (55) wanted to pick up our daughter (2) to sleep over at her house (without my husband or myself present) so that my brother-in-law can see her since he misses her.

This is the conversation I (27) had with my mother-in-law about the matter, and I established that if my brother-in-law wants to see our daughter, he has to wait until AFTER my husband and him see each other at the pre-trial. My mother-in-law did not like my decision, and she seems to think that she has a say in the matter as the “grandmother” and because it involves her “son,” who happens to have no-contact with his brother and myself, the parents…

Not really pertinent to the situation, but for more context, my brother-in-law has BPD, PTSD, extreme anger issues, and even has 3 counts of pending SA allegations against him. and I’m worried he may act out in front of our daughter the night before the pre-trial without either of us there since he’s already bent out of shape over this entire trial and blames my husband for everything. Of course, I didn’t / couldn’t mention this to my mother-in-law since she sees my husband’s brother as the baby who does no wrong in the family, and she defends him at every turn.

My husband says he supports me, but was also initially okay with his brother seeing our daughter without either of us there, and it wasn’t until I heard about his mother asking about it that I put some thought into it and made my decision afterwards. So, AIO?