Guilt cuddling someone after a break-up
My ex ghosted me two weeks ago. Since then, I’ve been focusing on myself, working out again, learning a new language, and trying new things.
A week after he ghosted me. He messaged me again, saying he was sorry and wanted to talk. But this was already a pattern with him, so I decided not to respond anymore and be lured back.
In the meantime, while learning a new language, I decided to meet my language partner. We met organically and I realized how much I liked that. There was something refreshing about just clicking with someone in real life without the pressure of dating expectations.
When we met, I wasn’t attracted to him at all. I just enjoyed having a new friend, someone to talk to and learn from.
One night, he invited me over for dinner and lessons. Since it got late, he asked if I wanted to stay over. At first, I thought I’d sleep on the couch, but he suggested sharing the bed. Surprisingly, I felt okay with it. As we lay there, our bodies touched, and I could feel his warmth. I feel like he was also waiting for me to do soemthing since he kept moving. So I asked if I could hug him, and he said yes.
So I did. We cuddled the whole night. Nothing sexual happened, I didn’t even think about having sex. I just liked the feeling of holding someone. But at the same time, it felt wrong, almost like I was cheating… even though I’m not with my ex anymore.
Is it normal to feel guilty even though the relationship is over?