What’s something about postpartum that you never saw coming?

Mine was literally every relationship I had after kids has changed. I realized I had surrounded myself with relatives that actually weren’t kind to me. I had become the ultimate people pleaser and no longer could I afford to spend my energy trying to please people who never cared about me in the first place. I’m sure they cared but they continuously made down grading comments that taxed out my mental health.

Wondering what was something big that changed for you? And If you experienced something similar to mine did you eventually grow out of these feelings or did your relationships stay permanently altered?