Do I (F) need to start asking guys out??

Do I need to learn 'game' and start approaching guys I'm into? Boys - how do I do this??

I'm apparently conventionally "hot" but also ADHD and somewhat on the spectrum and I've always been into nerdy/quirky guys. They don't approach me, but confident douchebags often do and in the past I've had toxic relationships that don't work out. Looking back, I wasn't actively interested in the first place but they were the ones asking and persistent (I'm not saying what I've done is good or right, I'm just being honest).

I want to choose. I want the cute, nerdy, shy guy.