Sister that married a Muslim asked me to be a godparent at my nephew’s baptism. I told her to be prepared for the priest to say no if he learns of my plans to be married outside the RCC

A few weeks ago I posted on here about keeping my fiancé from caving in on my mom’s hounding on me for a Catholic wedding. As a side note, I had mentioned that my sister has married a Muslim and managed to get away with it as a sign my mom would come around to me being married at my current church, which is nondenominational and progressive enough to where trans people feel ok there.

A few days ago my sister asked me if I would be the godparent for my nephew, who she decided to get baptized (as mentioned earlier, my mom had been nagging her about it for a while). I have my concerns about this, but my sister has always been feminist and I think she’d be able to prevent most of the Catholic indoctrination from working (back in the day, my mom accused her of hypocrisy for marring a Muslim because “they don’t treat their women right”.) As for my brother in law, he’s a rather lax/secular Muslim who hasn’t expressed any opposition that I’ve heard of.

I told my sister that I’d do it if the parish priest allowed it, but that I was dubious due to me planning to have a non-Catholic wedding. I think her intent is to get me in as a godparent before I officially get married (aka no big obvious “he broke Catholic teaching” mark against me). However, if the priest asks questions about my engagement, I’ll probably be blunt and honest with “I go to a non-Catholic church due to disagreements with several RCC views and actions, intend to get married to my fiancé there, and am not going to be convinced to return to the RCC. If that means you need a different godparent, so be it.” Dunno if I’d be switched over to the “Christian witness” category though.

Anyone else in here go through a similar situation? Figure it’s better to ramble about Catholic shenanigans here than elsewhere.