How do I stop seeking attention in social media and live a more private, carefree life? 19F

Hi, I'm 19F, and I’ve been stuck in a cycle I really want to break. I use Instagram and Snapchat not because I enjoy them, but just to get the attention of a guy who once fell for me.

Now, he doesn’t text first anymore, and I feel like it’s more of an ego thing rather than him losing interest. To make him notice me, I keep posting stories and sending snaps, hoping he'll respond. I don’t even scroll through reels or use social media for fun—it's just my escape when I feel lonely. I tell myself that if he replies, I won’t feel alone.

But I’ve realized that constantly chasing someone or seeking validation online isn’t who I want to be. I want to completely stop using social media and maintain a private, lowkey, happy life. I want to focus on improving myself, becoming truly carefree, and just enjoying life without worrying about who's watching.

The problem is, whenever I feel lonely, my first instinct is to go on social media. How do I stop this urge? What are some better alternatives to help me feel fulfilled without relying on online validation? I’d really appreciate any advice!