Why do Bullies Hate Kindness

Being nice to bullies always backfires. They seem to hate me twice as much.

I'm not sure if my "kindness" disrupts their smear campaign and ruins their attempt to portray me as a "bad person".

Some of them get angry when they feel outshined or if they think you're "stealing" attention away from them.

Being nice also makes it more challenging for them to justify their abusive, cruel, disgusting behavior. They NEED you to be the villain, so they can feel like the "good guys".

They typically accuse you of being "fake" when you are kind to them. You are "trying too hard" when you stay late to help them. You are "seeking attention" when you bring in cupcakes to work.

Additionally, THEY are never nice without an ulterior motive, so they assume the same about us.

Some of them resent being viewed as a "charity case". They view your kindness as some type of power play and HATE feeling inferior or like they "owe you". So they lash out and try to dominate you to "put you in your place".

Theyre just hateful for no apparent reason. It's genuinely shocking how evil people are when you're nothing but kind to them. I feel very hurt and traumatized after my last workplace experience.

The extreme level of hostility and virulent nastiness I experienced for simply coming to work everyday, putting my best effort in, and brining in cupcakes & snacks was unbelievable. I did NOTHING to deserve the horrible abuse, slander, smear campaigns, and harassment from this middle age horrible woman. And she'd done this to other people!!! Yet she was still employed there and people actually took her side.